Myth #1 If you love the work you do, you'll never have to work another day of your life:
Ahahahahahhaha!!! What a bunch of BS!!!
Let's sit down for a few, and have some real talk.
Over the past 10 years I've built my company, Dreamshine, from the ground up, starting with my office in a barn-literally!
Throughout the past 10 years I've had times where I've crawled through hell, teary eyed, dirt in my finger nails, and was wondering if I could even go on.
Don't get me wrong, I love what I do, and I wouldn't trade it for the world. At Dreamshine, we are honored to serve individuals with special needs with a 2 word mission statement : Change Lives.
10 years later, with 20 staff on my Dream Team , serving over 50 clients with special needs, we now have a multi million dollar company, and a beautiful campus.
But It's hasn't been all sunshine and roses along the way.
The problem is, people seem to think that if you become an entrepreneur, you will always enjoy what you do. You never have to "work," because you love it so much.
I'm here to tell you, that's a lie!
Here's any easy example. I've been married to my amazing wife for over 10 years. I love her. Our marriage has taken more work, in so many ways, and also blossomed more I ever could have possibly imagined.
Is it easy? NOOOO!!!!
Is it worth it? YEEEEEEESSS!!!!!!
I've seen so many people so "passionate" about their dream, their marriage, & to use the term that's trending these days, becoming an entrepreneur.
At least, at first.
Unfortunately, not if, but when the going gets tough, then tougher, followed by adversity punching you square in the jaw, you are down for the count.
You were a straight A student, but you never knew the importance of Your "Get Back Up Grade," as my good man, Shane De Garay aka The Shane Train says it.
They give up because they built their foundation on the myth if you love the work you do, you will never have top work another day in your life.
By the way, I'm all about doing what you love, I just need you to understand success and adversity absolutely coexist.
How you choose to react is the key, some people call this emotional intelligence, if you want to get all fancy about it.
I like to call it your reaction/will power muscle. Both these, like, muscles, get stronger as you work them out more and more overtime.
And guess what, this is a lifelong journey.
You said you wanted real talk, right!?
Myth #2 Passion is Connected to Feelings:
"But Mark, I thought Passion was a good thing!?"
Yes, it is.
But most people think being passionate means you are going to be holding poms poms, jumping up and down, and cheering everyday about how awesome it is to be an entrepreneur, allowing your feelings to dictate your dream.
Truthfully, real passion is connected to your foundational why.
Real passion, the kind which endures, has nothing to do with feelings, and everything to do with your why.
Most people fall into the myth that passion is connected to feelings. And as soon as the storms hit, because your foundation is not built upon your why, your passion washes away.
Which makes you wishy washy! So you give up, because you stopped "feeling" the passion.
Think of the book The Tortoise and The Hare. The tortoise enters the race, even though he lacked the talent. The "experts" mocked him, and counted him out as a joke.